1. That's preferred.
   Not at all
2. You can arrive between the hour and the half hour.
   Most people arrive late.

You are to arrive on the hour, no exceptions, when dining before a show. If not, you possibly hold everyone up from getting to the theater on time. That is also not appropriate. If you have a habit of being late, you won't even be invited.

1. Yes to both
   They can only ask for themselves.
2. They can ask for a stranger.
   No to both

In this case, no, a double negative doesn't mean a positive. A person must never ask for an invitation to any event neither for themselves, nor a stranger. If it's general entertainment, however, a person may ask for a invitation for a stranger.

1. Behind her
   Curb side
2. To the left
   On the inside

This is the proper order because then the man is protecting the woman from any harm coming from the road. If there are two women, the man is still to walk curbside and never in between the women.

1. Ask to be moved elsewhere
   Just talk to someone else
2. You still must talk to them.
   Kick them under the table.

This is a hard and fast rule of etiquette. If you are seated next to someone at dinner, you must talk to them no matter what your relationship is with them. It's for the hostess's benefit that you are cordial and put your differences aside.

1. A polite way of saying she's in the bathroom
   She is angry with whoever is trying to see her.
2. She isn't home.
   She's not seeing visitors.

If you go knocking at someone's door and the maid or housekeeper says the lady is not at home, it often means that she just doesn't want visitors. Another way of saying it is that she is not receiving.

1. By request only
   Only if they are unscented
2. Candles are appropriate at every meal
   Never

The whole point of candles on the table is to give some light when the daylight is lost, so putting them on your breakfast or lunch table just doesn't make sense. The table setting for lunch and for dinner is actually entirely different altogether.

1. 7:45 p.m.
   6 p.m.
2. 5 p.m.
   8 p.m.

While America doesn't have a fixed time for dinner, New York's Best Society does. Eight o'clock is the standard dinner time unless one is attending a show or event after. Then it will be 7:15 or 7:30 depending on the event.

1. Under her chair
   On her lap
2. Under her leg
   In her purse

Ladies must wear gloves to formal dinners, but they take them off when seated for dinner. It is proper to place them and their fan on their lap to eventually be covered with a nicely folded napkin.

1. "I should like to buy"
   "I desire to purchase"
2. "I want this."
   "I shall procure"

There's a lot of phrases that people enhance with "fancy" words thinking it makes them sound high society. But often, that just shows their lack of status. Saying "I desire to purchase" will make you sound silly around others.

1. Yes
   No, it's purely a clerical position.
2. Secretaries have no social position.
   If they want to

Anything dealing with social engagements like invitations, responses, social calendar, etc. is taken care of by the social secretary. She is not to attend any events in any way, but she does keep record of all social events of her employer.

1. "This is my daughter."
   "Mrs. Jones, do you know my mother?"
2. "Mr. Jones, shake hands with Mt. Smith."
   "I'm introducing you to Mr. Jones."

Telling someone to shake the hand of the person you're introducing is highly presumptuous and not at all encouraged in societal etiquette. Assuming a friendlier relationship than you have with someone is a no-no.

1. Only in casual situations
   At formal parties
2. Anywhere there are more than 50 guests
   It's up to the host or hostess.

You would never take a guest up to a table of 10 people and introduce them. It is the hostess's job to take the guests around individually to each guest. It's a daunting task, which is why hosting a party is such an undertaking in high society.

1. It's outside.
   There's no difference.
2. Who you invite is different.
   A garden party has to be for a special occasion.

An afternoon tea that takes place outside is simply called a garden party. A tent is usually kept on hand in the event of rain, but it can be just as casual or as formal as you want it to be.

1. Always before
   You need a head count.
2. Depends on the demand of the show
   You rely on someone else to get them.

It is rude to invite people to the theater and not already have good seats on lockdown. It's also best practice to only invite people to a show that is new, as you wouldn't want to invite, and then bore, people with something they may have already seen.

1. She does.
   No, it's inherited.
2. Unless told otherwise
   She doesn't get a position no matter what.

If a woman is marrying a man of particular status, she inherits that status from him and his family, even if she did not have a position prior to marriage. Everyone who knows and calls on the groom is expected to act the same around the bride.

1. Meet your neighbors
   Introduce yourself to everyone
2. Accept an invitation to someone's house
   Get involved

It is much harder for those with no societal position to gain position. It's a long road, but a good first step is to accept every invitation offered. You never know who you're going to meet or where it will lead.

1. Four
   Zero
2. One
   Three

The first step is to determine its usefulness. Then, you ask yourself if it has beauty of form, line and color, is it suited for where it's placed, and finally, if it didn't exist, would anyone miss it?

1. Five
   Eight
2. Twelve
   Four

The eight courses are hors d'oeuvre, soup, fish, entree, roast, salad, dessert and coffee. If the dinner is of casual nature, there would be no entree and possibly no soup or hors d'oeuvre.

1. Only the back row
   Yes, when there are no women present
2. Only if he's alone in the box
   No

There are a ton of rules for how people can act at the opera, but one of them is that man should never sit alone in the front row of the box. There will be a time when he is alone in the box, but even then he must sit elsewhere.

1. "Hi."
   "Pleased to meet you."
2. "Charmed."
   "How do you do?"

There is only one response after being introduced to someone. If you are a person of position, you can jump right into the conversation by asking a somewhat personal, but still appropriate question.

1. "Where's your evidence for that?"
   "You're wrong."
2. "I don't think I agree with you."
   "I beg to differ."

There will come a time in every conversation when people don't agree. However, a proper gentleman keeps his prejudices to himself. If he does disagree, he can politely say he disagrees, but leave it at that.

1. A woman who can always keep the conversation going
   One who is confident in herself
2. One who can make anyone laugh
   One who makes the man to whom she's speaking seem clever

The witty woman is not the one who is the most clever. She is the one who can make the man seem the most clever. In best society, the woman should never make herself too known unless it is at the behest of the man.

1. Never
   Yes
2. Only to be helped across the road
   Only if the woman is less able

A gentleman must always offer his arm to an older lady or an invalid, or a woman needing help across a rough road, but other than that a lady should never lean on a man. It's only at night as she wears high heels that he must offer his arm at all times.

1. Close friends and family only
   Whoever the host chooses
2. Neighbors
   Colleagues

Supper is considered the most intimate meal there is, so only family and the closest of friends are included. It's so intimate that there are usually no invitations, but rather guests are invited through word of mouth.

1. Only if they are good friends
   No
2. It's up to the individuals.
   It's the best way to greet one another.

It's as simple as that. Ladies should never kiss upon meeting at a party or out in public. It doesn't matter how good of friends they are. Actually, the less touching upon greeting the better.

1. No
   Yes
2. Depends on the situation
   Only if the two already know each other

It is actually OK to ask someone if they know the person you are with and want to introduce. It doesn't matter if it's a man being introduced to a woman or vice versa, there are other acceptable forms of introductions.

1. Doesn't matter as long as there's scones
   Only sweet foods
2. Nothing that requires a fork
   There really isn't any.

The categories of food for an afternoon tea are tea, bouillon, chocolate, bread and cake, but pretty much anything can fall in the bread and cake category. This is where you'll see your scones, cakes, sandwiches and other nibbles.

1. The oldest lady present
   The owner of the home
2. The one who sent the invitations
   Whoever is chosen to be honored

Unless otherwise stated, the guest of honor is always the oldest lady at the dinner. Of course there are exceptions to this if the host chooses, but if there is no one else she wishes to honor, the oldest lady will remain.

1. The mother
   Her maid
2. Her own sense of dignity and pride
   Her father

There is no better chaperone for a girl other than what she should already possess as a member of society. She is to carry herself with grace and dignity no matter if she is being watched or not.

1. Salad, fish and dessert
   Appetizer, entree and dessert
2. Salad, meat and fish
   Salad, entree and dessert

There is an order in which you place forks, and the order in which they are used. However, Emily Post was known for using the wrong fork at the wrong time, so this rule is a little lax at times.

1. Find the hostess before you enter the room.
   Behind the lady of the house
2. Don't enter until you've been announced.
   Quietly as not to disturb the guests already there

There really isn't much difficulty in entering a drawing room, says Emily Post. But it is important to locate the host before entering so you can make your way right to them to greet them.

1. Dancing with multiple men
   Whispering
2. Eating large pieces of food
   Talking with anyone for more than a minute

There are a plethora of things that a debutante shouldn't do when she is coming out to society, but whispering is a big one. It shows a complete lack of courtesy toward others, and the only thing worse than whispering is giggling at the same time.

1. Present
   Introduce
2. Please meet ...
   This is ...

"Present" is preferred in high society over "introduce." According to Post, though, neither are actually used in formal situations. The general rule is that the younger person is always presented to the older person.

1. That is never allowed.
   Not without permission
2. Absolutely!
   Only if they are above a certain age

Emily Post never understood why the general consensus was that maids are not allowed to have men over. They would just sneak out to meet men anyway, so you might as well let them in the house or maid's quarters.

1. Only if an RSVP is requested on the invitation
   Yes.
2. It's not required.
   Only if you are not family

It is only if you are invited to the reception that an RSVP is required. If the invitation is just for the church ceremony, no response is needed. Emily Post doesn't really give an explanation for this, surprisingly.